You don't lose if you say "I'm sorry"

Why do people think that asking for forgiveness a sign of weakness?

Is it because it shows that you regret something, that at one point you were "wrong"? 

And why does that fact bother people - Once upon a time I was wrong - How is that so impossible?

Do you know what's even crazier - saying I’m sorry in a relationship. Lets take the pain of saying sorry in general and amplify that suffering by 80% - That’s how hard it is to say I’m sorry in a relationship.

WAIT a minute, I’m being a bit too general, that statement is incorrect.  What I really mean is that’s how hard it is for a GIRL to say I’m sorry in a relationship.  There I've said my peace - go on, attack me.  I dare you!

No get ready for it because you're mind will now be officially blown.

Saying "I'm sorry" is the reason I am now so blissfully happy and light in my 10-year relationship, go figure.

Want to know the reason why? How bout 5?  All right, challenge accepted, here goes:

1. You're no longer this selfish little bitch
• Do you know why guys say "I'm Sorry" so insincerely? To shut you up. 
• Why? Because you are a selfish little bitch and they figured out a trick to get you to stop making annoying sounds and start making out them.
• When you say sorry you actually are showing that you care for this person you supposedly like, or even love more then you care about yourself - isn't that beautiful
2. You're no longer fighting for yourself your fighting for each other
• When you say, "I'm sorry" your not trying to win anymore, you're trying to fix.  Now tell me which option sounds better?
3. You stop fighting
• Goodness this one is too obvious it hurts. (But not if you say it in a  "well I'm sorry you feel that way" kind of way - that’s not really how it works)
4. You move forward
• You know that lovely thing we girls do when we fight with a boy and we bring up that thing they did after work one day at that restaurant 5 months ago. Do you know why we did it - because we didn't forgive him the first time he said sorry - why? see point 1.
• Forgiveness is two sided; once you know how to apologize you know how to forgive.
5. You become equals
• Is that what you want? To be equal in a relationship? Now riddle me this, is that possible if one person is "always right."

For me the moral of the story is - if you admit you're wrong once, you have the ability to do right from that moment on.

Don't get me wrong, it took me a LOOONG time to realize this - there was actually a moment in my dating life when I said "wait a minute, I'm not perfect, " and that’s when I started to grow.  The ability to say sorry may not happen today but its good to know that it’s possible.

Please take this advice in heed, you SHOULD NOT be apologizing for how you dress, how you talk, who your friends are, where you work, or how you live.  These are things that make you who you are, you NEVER apologize for that.  You should ONLY be apologizing if you sincerely hurt someone (even if you didn't know it at the time), and ONLY if it’s sincere (the second part is the hardest) 

In contrary to the intro, saying I’m sorry is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Peace out my lovelies

The problem I have with haters .....

Hi,

I was just thinking in my bed one night (i.e. tonight :) and I remembered this quote from Maya Angelou -
"The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story"

I love this quote because it goes both ways:

Stop Hatin on me
a)  I don't care if you judge me or hate me, love me or loathe me, you have no idea what I've been through to get where I am today - queue neck swivel and 3 finger snap "you don't know me" mm hmm

I Ain't Hatin on you
b) who am I to judge or hate on someone - people act and are who they are for many reasons (limited experience, defense mechanism, pressure, stress) maybe take a minute and stop thinking about yourself to find out :) (thats me giving me advice right there!)

Also to add to this - don't be jealous of someone - there's a reason that person is there, be it connection or hard work they took advantages of the opportunities they had - use it for inspiration and push forward!

Just thought it was a really cool quote to post.

Peace out

I hate how much I love being a hypocrit :)

• I have a cold cold heart when it comes to business but when it comes to friends its warm fuzzy and caring
• I'm super smart when it comes to logic and math but am soo dumb when it comes to history and common knowledge :)
• I HATE fake people, but catch myself smiling out of uncomfortablness (is that a word?)
• I'm a sarcastic Bitch but I really want women to get along - Girl Power?
• I want to be Happy & Content AND Ambitious...is that possible?
• I will not, under no circumstance, judge you when I meet you (I will not be THAT person) but when it comes to family I can't help but do it

Lessons from a beach

Hi,

I just came back from vacation the other week and it was simply amazing because (Disclaimer this part looks like I'm bragging - but that isn't my intention, I hope....):

1. I needed time away - even though I love the people I work with and like my job sometimes it weighs heavy on your heart
2. I needed a week away from technology - do you know how refreshing that is?!  You get to connect with 'for real' humans
3. Most Importantly, I took away lessons that I really want to apply to my real life (really? on vacation?! YES!)

Contrary to the title, the beach didn't speak up and teach me anything in particular (more I was trying to think of something creative and perhaps it's a slight fail :) but living my life near one made all the difference in the world.


Want to know what I learned? No? Too bad here it comes anyways - Thats what she said? lol

• FOCUS - life is mixed with things and people pulling you in different directions BUT on the beach I made it a mission to finish my book - I was so god damn determined that poof - book finished! Making a decision to put your energy on one thing and cut out all the other white noise really helped me accomplish what I wanted

• Plan your week - I wanted to make the most of every day from my vacation so we planned out our excursions our a la carts and our nights out days in advance...Why don't I do that when I'm back home? 

• The day doesn't end at 5:00 pm - After a long and hard day tanning (or attempting to) on the beach we got back to the room and napped, got ready for dinner, had a great dinner with amazing conversation, walked around, watched a show and went dancing...EVERYDAY (the lesson here, TAKE advantage of the time you have - people say life is short because they cut it that way)

This last lesson I take away from every vacation but worth mentioning now as a simple reminder:

• Live in the moment - Enjoy the time in the sun, enjoy your lunch, have fun with the company you have - live in the present, time is so precious why waste it?

I'm so happy (read: lucky) I got a chance to re-energize and relax. I hope I actually apply these takeaways to my real life - imagine that, live life like a vacation :)

Peace!